"Still think he tends to be a self-absorbed misogynist bully, and hyper-rage as an excuse pushes all of my buttons"

I agree with you there -I know a few of those in real life! - but what I love about him is his soft side,which totally redeems him in my eyes...in spite of his bullyism and rage I think he is probably the most fragile of our main characters and one that hurts and loves deeply.

The main reason I fell in love with FS is that there are so many dychotomies in all of the characters...most of them are alien, but oh so human!